I love this verse… A tranquil heart and a healthy body!!! Who doesn’t want that????
I come from a long line of Herschells (my maiden name) and we have a reputation for being passionate and volatile; short fused and quick to get angry. That means if you want to get in a fight with me you had better have your wits about you as I have a family legacy of being on the slightly feisty side when cornered or caught in an argument. As I was growing up, I learnt to stay `under the radar’ and avoid trouble and conflict, I had best keep my anger in check but that didn’t mean I was all of sudden lead to being less angry. It just meant my anger went underground and stewed as a more passive version, less likely to hurt others in the short term but on the other hand likely to cause mass destruction should the volcano blow. Learning how to deal with my anger so whether passive nor aggressive has been a long a tedious journey. I could write a whole book on anger, its roots, its manifestations and the gamut of causes and effects but that is not what this blog is about. However I am aware that none of us are exempt from its impact on us and the impact our own anger has on others. Those genetics (or should I call it my sinful nature) were passed on to my kids of course and I, as their Mum have been given the responsibility of training my children to express anger in a Godly way. Just in case you think you don’t ever get angry maybe these words could describe what you feel instead:
annoyed, antagonized, argumentative, bitter, chafed, convulsed, cranky, cross, displeased, enraged, exacerbated, exasperated, ferocious, fierce, fiery, frustrated, fuming, furious, galled, grumpy, hateful, heated, hot, huffy, ill-tempered, impassioned, incensed, indignant, inflamed, infuriated ,irate, irritable, irritated, quarrelsome, maddened, moody, nettled, offended, outraged, piqued, provoked, raging, resentful, riled, sore, storming, sulky, sullen, touchy, turbulent, uptight, vexed, volatile, wrathful,
Ephesians 4:26-27 26 Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry-but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry.27 Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life. (The Message)
Over the past few days I have been taking the kids through a You Version reading plan and this time the topic is Anger. It simply takes them through the scriptures and we get to discuss what the Bible has to say about our anger and how we should respond to have healthy relationships. Each of us has been given this emotion as a part of our makeup to help us deal with others and with life. If we are to thrive and in our relationships then we must learn to manage our anger and process hurt, offense and disappointment or simply not getting our own way in a Godly way. This emotion can cause massive destruction or lead to to change and transformation. You may well have been the victim of someone else’s inability to manage their anger well. You know how anger can detroy. What about you. Has you anger or inability to manage your frustrations lead to destructive and hurtful behaviour not just to others but your own life? Be honest!
As a part of the Hills Sisterhood we are committed to flourishing in relationships. We are NOT led by our emotions but rather led by the Spirit of God. Submitting to God includes submitting our emotions to His purpose and that includes anger. The fruit of your life flows from your heart and the fruit of the spirit is only evidenced when the spirit is what leads you. You know as well as I do that if you are not well, feeling tired, or hormonal that your ability to submit your emoitons to God’s purpose is a whole lot harder to do. The fruit of the spirit done’s get put there by some magical force. The fruit of the spirit flows from submission submit to God’s purpose (including the most difficult, frustrating and provoking of circumstances/people). What are you doing with this emotion called anger (or whatever word you want to use to describe it)? I know first-hand how the Holy Spirit deals with anger …he allows us to feel it…so don’t be surprised if your anger button gets pressed this week…
Just because I get angry doesn’t mean I have to hurt others or bottle it up for hours, months or years. What I do with that anger is very powerful..and it is completely up to me? I can’t blame a situation or a person for what I do with my anger…...
Not feeling heard is one the main reasons I lose my cool.
Not getting my own way gets me angry.
Wanting to be right makes me cranky.
Things not done in my time frame can lead to anger.
Being bossed around can make me angry.
My kids can get me angry (mostly when I am tired or they aren’t being kind to each other)
The pill made me angry (so I no longer take it) Hormones make me grumpy and moody.
Tiredness makes me short tempered? Stress makes me snappy?
Being treated like I am an idiot makes me shut down and stew.
Injustice makes me angry.
Child abuse makes me angry.
Human Trafficking makes me angry.
Pornography, abuse and domestic violence make me angry.
Drink driving makes me cross…
People who are more opinionated than me can make me annoyed
People who make excuses for their rudeness and anger make me angry:)
I don’t want to leave my kids with a legacy of anger management issues….
Proverbs 20:3 3 It’s a mark of good character to avert quarrels and stay aloof from strife, but fools love to pick fights.
Proverbs 21:14.A secret gift calms anger;a bribe under the table pacifies fury. Read more
Daniel 3:19 Nebuchadnezzar was so furious with Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego that his face became distorted with rage. He commanded that the furnace be heated seven times hotter than usual.
Romans 12:19 Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Read more
Ephesians 4:26-27 26 Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry-but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry.27 Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.
James 1:19-20 19 Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear.
2 Timothy 2:24 A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people
James 4:1Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves..